Charitable folk are one of a kind. I gravitate towards them, their company, their entire being like a moth to a flame. My mum says its like they brainwash me sometimes, I become that influnced by them.
But. They get a lot of stick don’t they? Mostly for flooding your inbox but also because they’re always asking for your money which makes them that nagging human you always cross the road to avoid.
The way I see it, everyone has to do their own thing. Charity reps have to ask because if they didn’t, no one else would bother and you have the choice whether to give or not. Right?
Wrong. If only it were that simple.
When they don’t get what they want, some charity reps. can get personal in that they will see someone’s fancy car (forgive me I can’t give a brand name, I am car illiterate) and think well, they can afford that so why can’t they give to the poor? Which makes me think… first of all anything that anyone has was given to them by the almighty so…. don’t eye up people’s possessions and use them as means to prove a point. Honestly, don’t be that guy. No one likes that guy. And second of all, wallah, we have 0 means of knowing who gives to what cause and when so it is crucial we shut our mouths. A reminder to myself first of course.
The person you are judging could be the most giving person in the world but they give in secret, which some would argue should be the only way to give, so no one knows whether they are charitable or not. I feel like we shouldn’t point fingers and land ourselves in sticky situations that could potentially embarass us.
Allow me to explain.
I knew someone who once got a major telling off from an elder person in the family for spending all their money on clothes instead of donating to the poor. And I knew (but was forbiden to reveal) that this person was in fact majorly involved in the charity scene but liked no one to know. I’d never cringed so much in my life…
That was charitable folk prejudice. As for our prejudice, one would argue we have the right to hold on to our money, work hard for it as we do. If we don’t want to give, no one can make us but, that doesn’t give us the right to attack charity reps.
Charity reps where I live, corner you everywhere; events, the streets, the phone, and even at home. My uncle once screamed blue murder at one rep. for calling on the house phone which I thought wasn’t nice. My neighbours aren’t very neighbourly towards them either, from yelling to slamming doors to pretending not to speak English (I myself am guilty of that one!) they’ve done it all. I feel like nagging though these house visits are, we should try to be civil even if we are not in a giving space. Ultimately these are people trying to actually change the world.
When they’ve knocked on my door in the past, I had nothing to give them most of the time, because they don’t want one off payments, they like monthly commitments… but instead of berating them I try and treat them like humans and not as nuisances. I told one straight away before he started his, “I am sure you love old people like we do at Age UK…” monologue, I said “Look bruh, old people are bomb, but I am hella skint right now so I got nada. I know you’ve been walking all day though so here’s a bottle of water.”
He was so psyched with the water, he thanked me in abudance and went and told the other rep, knocking on the doors on the other side of road, “dude I got water!!” I think his dejected friend went, “nice, I got a piss off from number 16.” Bless…
Another time I told the dude that as much as I cared about saving dolphins, I had nothing to give. He asked me to use the bathroom as he had been walking 5 hours and still had 90 houses to knock on so, and I don’t advocate this, I let him in. Which of course earned me a sarcastic “shabash tam, what if he was a rapist?!” from my ever so proud mother…
The final prejudice we spread like confetti is aimed at people who publicize their charitable acts via social media. Yeah charity is best done in secret. But raising awarness is also a thing. I have defended this one far too many times to say much more.
Moral of the story; charity doesn’t have to be monetary, yeah it’s probably the most beneficial type but kindness is also charity, so lets be kind peeps. Or as my mother always says, “smile tam, SMILE, IT’S CHARITY to smile, you can throw money you don’t have at all these charitable causes as much as you want but if you don’t smile* it won’t count!”
My mother the legend ladies and gents.
*I only smile on special occassions.