Being alone is often confused with being lonely. The latter, I feel could be due to unfortunate external factors like work, friends (or lack thereof) society, depression, anxiety and just the result of the general unpleasantness that is life sometimes. The former, the way I see it at least, is a choice.
I believe we live in a society where socialising has not only become the norm, it’s almost turning in to a law. If you don’t want to go out to a family gathering or a work do you are heavily criticised aren’t you? ‘Well, why don’t you want to go out? Don’t be a loner! What will you do instead, sit here all by your self?’ These are some of my (not so) favourite comebacks for when I decide against going out.
It’s not that I don’t like socialising (who am I kidding, I don’t). I just think that alone time is truly nourishing for the soul. I wish being alone wouldn’t be viewed in the negative light it sometimes is. I remember back in the day when I was at university, I used to bunk lectures (!) to go to the movies, wait for it; alone. This did not go down so well with my friends (or teenage cousin!) when they found out, not because they were indignant they were not invited, rather because they were embarrassed for me.
Now, I found this this puzzling particularly that I wasn’t embarrassed for me. Admittedly, I was a little apprehensive about going solo because society doesn’t approve of such rash antics, but once the lights were out I got so into the movie that I didn’t really notice the vacant seat next to me.
I read a quote once that went a little something like this; “You come to this world alone and that is how you shall leave it too…” – it is not the prettiest quote or the most life changing I suppose but it speaks the truth. People come and go out of our lives; friends, family, acquaintances, passers by… but the one person you are always left with is you.
So, I guess it’s important to like your own company. It ain’t an easy task, but once accomplished it is pretty freeing and boy is it empowering and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.